Jennifer Lopez know why her very public relationships failed in the past and she isn’t afraid to admit it.
“For me, the relationship journey has been very up and down,” she said in an interview with Harper’s Bazaar. “But it didn’t have to do with anybody else but me — it was about me figuring out me.”
She continued: “Until you learn to love yourself, you can’t completely love [someone else] in a way that is pure and true. Once you do that, you can have relationships that are based on love and respect, that are supportive and nourishing. There’s an evolution there that had to happen for me. I feel like I’m in a better place now.”
The actress and singer, 49, made her red carpet debut with former Yankees star Alex Rodriguez in May 2017 at the Met Gala and the two have been together since. Though engagement speculation pops up from time to time, Lopez says you won’t be hearing wedding bells for a little while.
“I’ve got two amazing kids and a great boyfriend,” she said. “I don’t have everything figured out, and everything isn’t perfect. But I feel very proud that with all the things I’ve gone through in my personal life, I’m still optimistic and hopeful.”
Last month, she told USA TODAY she understands why her fans want to see her walk down the aisle.
“Everyone wants a fairy tale. They all want a romantic comedy, a happy ending. We all do,” she said. “But it’s not a movie, even if you see us on Instagram or on the shows.”
Lopez has two kids with ex Marc Anthony: 10-year-old twins Max and Emme. Prior to her 10 year marriage to Anthony, she was married to actor/choreographer Cris Judd for two years and Ojani Noa for one year — so she’s no stranger to her relationships facing public scrutiny.
“We’re happy. We’re taking it day-by-day. And it’s great,” she added.
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